(Continued from Part I…)
How did you get involved in all these amazing things? Did you just reach out and find them?
Sometimes I just stumble into things; sometimes I seek things out. It is amazing how when you are open to things and listening, you can pick up on fun things to do. One day, I was watching the news, and they were talking about how to be an extra. So I went on the Fox News website, and there was a list of ways to get involved.
Actually, just down in Fayetteville, there is an old farm being converted into a sound stage. They are building there, and I have worked there some. It is really expanding the industry here. This is now called Pinewood Studios. It is across from an elementary school, which has just been sold. This is something good to think about for possible jobs maybe in the summer. It doesn’t pay a lot, but it is a good experience. They might just ask you to speak and then move you up [in the industry]. It was not a long time from applying to working. I signed up with different agencies and got emails from them soon. They let you know what they are looking for. You don’t always qualify. You submit photos—a headshot, full body, and upper body, but they don’t have to be professional shots.
What about your family?
My dad’s name is Norman. I have exactly the same name as my dad, but I am not a “Jr.” It was not put on my birth certificate. My mother’s name is Harriet.
Were you an only child?
I have a sister who lives in Florida. I am the oldest. Her name is Joanne, but she is called Jo.
What was your family like when you were growing up? Did you get along with your sister?
We all got along and had a good time whatever we did. Both of my parents were very happy people who loved to explore. We were interested in history and music. My mother was very musical; she played piano well. She never took a lesson; she played by ear very well. She would play in local establishments and did a lot of blues music. She was very good and had a good voice. She was the life of the party. She had that kind of personality. My father was not quite that much like that, but somewhat. My mom would know all the people in the stores as we shopped. I got that from her. Part of our job was always to brighten up the day of those we met along the way no matter where. My mom also worked as a waitress, so that made me a great tipper. Being sociable and compensating others for good service is important. I’m not very shy, if you’ve noticed that! (We all laugh…)
Do you remember what your first job was?
I worked in a local gas station. I pumped gas, washed the windows, and checked the oil. New Jersey actually has a law that you cannot pump your own gas. They still have attendants for that.
Did you ever have any pets when you were growing up?
I had lots of dogs and cats. I love animals. I have a miniature Schnauzer now. I could become an animal hoarder; that’s how bad it is. (We all laugh…) I visit Pet Smart on adoption days and always want to take home more animals. I once saw a dog like the Little Rascals’ dog, and we called him “PD Pit.” He had the eye patch and was irresistible. I understand Pit Bulls; so many people train them wrong. I’ve had a couple and have loved them immensely, and they were great dogs.
I have also lived in Connecticut and Massachusetts. I had a Pit Bull named “Pup.” Her best friend was a strange-looking dog—half Pit Bull, half Dachshund. It had a beautiful, muscular body and little, short legs. I was always afraid that it was going to be walking along and keel forward because his head was so heavy compared to his back legs! (We all laugh…) His name was “Sluggo.” The two would play incessantly. There was a fenced yard that was not completely fenced, but they would stay back there in the fence and play all day.
Have you had role models when you were growing up?
Actually quite a lot, but they’re some of my old friends who have gone on to some wonderful things. I’ve actually kept in touch with them. Sherwood and I were friends ever since Kindergarten. (I think the world of this guy.) His family moved to another city about fifteen miles away. After high school, he went to West Point and did a tour with the 101st Airborne in Vietnam. Then, he went to helicopter school and learned to fly Hueys. On his second tour, he began with medical evacuation. He got tired of getting shot at, so he changed to gunships. Then, he went on to be a fighter pilot and then a test pilot. He then went to the astronaut corps. He did five trips where he was the lead chase plane. When they reentered the atmosphere, he would follow the shuttle down. When they built the arm for the shuttle, he went out and took his extra vehicular trips to work on the space arm.
A friend of mine’s mother was the seamstress who made the suits for the astronauts, and that is something you don’t make a mistake on. She lives in Rhode Island. Sherwood lives in Texas now. He retired from all that and became a consultant and did test flights. His degree is in engineering. He’s a brilliant guy and very down to earth. When he would come visit, he would visit the schools, do presentations, and bring things for the kids. He was an outstanding person.
A couple other good friends ended up in the movie industry. In the movie Good Morning Vietnam, the mean sergeant that was always dumping on Robin Williams was a friend of mine. We were social workers together. I played football with his brother and did some stage work with him. He went off to be a character actor in Hollywood. He played a nasty chamber of commerce guy in an old movie. We kept in touch until he passed away in Acapulco of a heart attack.
I have another funny story that goes with that. His family owned a video store. When he would come home at Christmastime, he would work there. One time, a young lady came up, and she had one of his films. She looked up, looked down, looked up, looked down, and looked back up, and he just nodded his head. (We all laugh…) He was James Woods.
So what’s your wife’s name?
My wife is a charge nurse at Piedmont Fayette Hospital in the orthopedic unit. Her name is Tammy, and she is my second wife. My first wife was Debra, and we are still close. I got married just over a year ago in May, and for our honeymoon, we went up to New England and spent a whole day with Debra and her family. It felt great to still be considered part of the family. They’re a great bunch of people.
Tammy has a great history herself. She was in the Air Force doing advanced life support working with F111 fighter-bombers. She helped put in the seats and made sure the equipment was all working before they went off on their missions. She actually got to take a ride in one. It was a two-seater. The pilots love to take people up and get them sick, but that did not work on Tammy! The pilot did a full vertical take off. The suit inflates to manage the air pressure. They were in Turkey when she got to do that. Tammy was also stationed in England for quite a while. She also played volleyball on the Air Force European volleyball team and traveled all over Europe. Up until 2 years ago, she coached volleyball also with a couple of schools in the area.
Another thing I stepped into was a local ski and sports club. I emerged as a leader for the two clubs and put together trips. I organized skiing, whitewater rafting, and co-ed volleyball teams. It was great to get paid to organize all that and get to do it. It was northwest of Montreal, Canada. I wouldn’t even want to attempt that stuff anymore. (Laughs…) Actually, I wouldn’t mind rafting again because that is not so difficult. Canada is a wonderful county; there is so much to do there. Most of my time was in the eastern portion.
Do you happen to speak a language?
A bit of Spanish and a bit of French. Quebec is a beautiful and historic city. Canada is fun to visit. Montreal is another great city to visit. They have lots of winter activities, and they build this ice slide near the harbor. There are rivers that freeze over, and you can skate on them. There are horse carriage rides with fur blankets and lots of good food. I encourage people to travel to learn about the world.
What did you do when you worked with Delta?
I was a ground person working with International Reservations and Corporate Customer Care. I listened to peoples’ complaints and gave them extra frequent flyer miles and such. It was fun. I met a lot of friends that way. I did not want them to go to another airline. I tried to make it right. I started with NW Airlines, and they were bought by Delta. One of the good things is that Air France is part of Delta. They had reservations in Montreal. That shop got closed and routed to Tampa. If they spoke French, we had speakers for that. We also took calls in emergency situations. Luckily, we never had to implement that. If we had gotten the work, we would have had to stay until it was all over. There are cots and food, and you just have to stay. Just like the situation in San Francisco. That is not an easy airport to land in.
On a brighter note, one of my musician friends was coming to one of my festivals in upstate New York (he, his wife, and his son), and they were on the United flight from Colorado to New York that lost its hydraulics and cartwheeled on the runway in Sioux Falls in flames. Over two-thirds of the people survived. My friend, his wife, and his son survived. In fact, they made it to the festival! A taxi pulled up, and I said, “Is that really you, Pete?” He said, “Yep.” I said, “Alright, I’m not going to ask you.” He said, “It’s alright; you can ask me. One minute, we were flying and the next minute, I was standing in a cornfield. The three of us were standing in a cornfield, okay, not a scratch on us, but what happened in between I couldn’t tell you. I don’t remember any of that.” Wow. I guess it’s probably better that he doesn’t remember. Probably; it would be too terrifying. That would be awful.
I’ve heard a lot of your hobbies. During retirement, other than being an extra, what other things do you do for fun?
Well, I travel, enjoy time with friends, take pizza to the orthopedic unit about once a month, play with my dog, hike, and walk around a lake nearby.
I live off a dirt road, and it stays smooth after they grade it until the next rainstorm. I have the house with the all the turkeys in the yard. They are there a lot. There are four houses on the 75 acres. We don’t have any horses. Our house is actually a rental. The other houses are all part of the same family, and they are absolutely delightful. The husband is eighty-seven, and the wife is eighty-four. They still drive the tractor to keep the yard up. Their sons own the other two houses. There is a cell phone tower at the edge of the property. Funny how folks want better service but not the towers.
What are some of your philosophical beliefs? Have they changed over time?
- Treat people well.
- Stay away from drama and trauma as much as possible.
- Have a lot of faith.
- Life will go by without fuss.
- Pay attention. It’s amazing how the doors will open for you.
Have you supported specific causes?
I participated in lots of walks and fundraisers for many different things. Right now my focus is animals.
What problems today are you most concerned about?
The hatred that exists in this world bothers me a lot, and the attitude that if something is happening in this world, we should go stop it. It doesn’t stop. We used to laugh at the Russians who dashed in everywhere, but now, we go. Being the world’s police officer is not a good thing. We cannot turn the world into America. The most historical issue is France and the “ugly Americans.” People go into places and say, “How come you don’t speak English?” We cannot expect everyone to be like us.
Immigration. I love the cartoons of the Indians with us coming ashore—“Yes, may I see your papers?” (We all laugh…) We were all immigrants at one time. We harassed all the Native Americans and did nasty things to them. A lot of people now politically have images of “Well, we’ve got to make the country what it was when the Constitution was written.” You can’t do that. They say that before we had any income taxes, we had schools and roads. Sure—dirt roads, wonderful school houses the community built. (We laugh…) There was not much to education then.
And, another attitude that has been bothering me recently is the legislation in NC to make school attendance optional. Since schools aren’t doing the job well, home schooling is becoming more widespread. The parents are saying they pay for this and that for public school and the kids are not learning. I can’t believe that is actually happening! I can’t either…
It is not that all people have always agreed on politics. Back when the founding Fathers were writing up the documents, there was a lot of disagreement. All the “moral” people who founded the country were not all necessarily moral. They drank; they gambled. Anyway… Politics… (We laugh…) Our looking back at the past has changed our attitudes and what we choose to remember about these people.
Here is one sidelight of history… coming back to the Revolutionary War and all: I was in the Revolutionary Militia in Rhode Island, which was chartered in 1774. We would be in the parades and functions and fight mock battles. We were the first unit to be formed in the state of Rhode Island and continued right through.
One funny thing that happened back during Revolutionary times was when a British ship, The Gaspee, was sitting out in the harbor at Newport, Rhode Island to collect taxes for Britain. One ship, Hannah, sailed right by without even stopping. The Gaspee took off in hot pursuit. The captain of the Hannah knew where the sand bar was in the harbor, so he sailed right for it. The Gaspee ran hard aground on it! The Hannah sailed right on to the dock and unloaded the goods. A group of the prominent Rhode Islanders was by the docks and got an idea. They jumped into boats, paddled out, and captured the captain and crew from The Gaspee. There wasn’t much they could do. The captain was held at a house on his own. The crew was in a house near the cove. The Americans set The Gaspee on fire.
Ever since, every year there is a two-week celebration: “The Burning of The Gaspee.” That was one of the first shots that was fired in the war.
During 1776, the Bicentennial year, we also got to participate in the reenactment of the Battles of Lexington and Concord. Since we had red coats, we got to play the British. It was fascinating! People don’t really know the inaccuracies of the ride of Paul Revere. He couldn’t just ride around saying “The British are coming!” because everyone was British. What he did say (and quietly) was “The Regulars are coming,” meaning the regular British army. He also never made it to Concord. There were two other riders. One was a doctor, Dr. Prescott, who did make it to Concord. Why did Paul Revere get the credit? Well, he was the one who saw the signals at the old North Church.
We worry about what has happened in the current conflicts of the world. Our soldiers all have on uniforms, and they stand out while the other guys just look like regular people. Where did those people learn the technique of guerrilla warfare? In the Revolutionary War, the British wore the red coats and marched in formations. They were easy to spot. The Americans just looked like farmers and hid behind the trees and rocks. It’s an interesting way of thinking about it.
What has made your life successful and happy?
People’s happiness depends on themselves. You create your own happiness. You find things that you like. You do things that make you happy.
What advice do you have for young people?
Find things you enjoy in life. Treat people right. Go in directions that interest you.
Here is a story about being in the right place at the right time. One of my greatest joys was being a member of the Rangers. It was just before July 4th, 1976. The seamstress was not able to finish my jacket in time for the parade. This is the oldest and largest parade in the whole country. The parade started in 1792, and it is five miles long. So, gee! I wasn’t going to be able to march in the parade. Our colonel asked me, “Weren’t you a drummer? Do you think you could still do it?” I said “Sure.” “You must know rudimentary drumming.” “Of course, that’s what you start with.” “Good, we need you.” Well, here I was in this huge parade, me drumming along with two ladies paying fife leading the parade as the spirit of ‘76. I had a bandage on my head with fake blood and all that.
With most parades, they send out a couple of police cars to clear the road, and they always did in that parade… except for that year. We were all set ready to go. It was funny because I knew the director for the parade that year. He was a friend of mine who got involved in politics, and he was a state representative and all this. He said, “Okay guys, here’s the deal.” “What deal?” “You are literally leading off the parade, and the police cars will be behind you. It will be magic; don’t worry about it.”
Sure enough, as we turned the corner from the side street to the main road, it was like the parting of the seas. And it was one of the most thrilling events in my entire life. People would yell out to us as we went by. It was magic. It was a huge yearlong celebration of the country’s revolution. Everywhere you went it was a celebration. There was a huge, tall ship celebration in Newport, Rhode Island. Over seventy ships were there. It was a great year for history buffs.
Is there anything else you want to talk about?
Well, on my mother’s side, my grandmother was English/Scottish. My grandfather was French. On my father’s side, my grandmother was Swedish, and my grandfather was German. Pretty much all over Europe! We were all first and second generation. My great grandparents came over from Germany and Sweden. My grandmothers came over a generation before. I have a cute story about my grandmother.
My grandmother and great-aunt—it was Christmas morning, and they had wanted a piano. They were so excited, and they were pretty sure that they were getting a piano for Christmas. Well, also, their mom was going to have a baby. Christmas morning, their parents called up, “Come see your Christmas present!” They go, “Where’s the piano? Where’s the piano?” It was a baby sister! (We burst out laughing…) That was one of the stories that our family had for years that was one of the treasures. It wasn’t a piano; it was a baby sister. That’s funny. That’s really cute.
One person that had probably the biggest impact on me was my grandmother, my mother’s mother. My mother was born about the end of World War I. Her father was a soldier and “survived” a mustard gas attack. This was a nasty injury from World War I. It caused bad breathing problems. He passed away when my mother was three years old, so my grandmother was a single parent. Back in those days, that was not a common thing. She got a job in a local mill where she could walk to work. She was basically a cleaning lady and was treated extremely well by the bosses. She worked there for tons of years. That was the only job she ever had. She raised my mom and became a significant part of my life. She was a beautiful woman. I got a lot of my attitude from her. She taught me that ‘if life you gives you lemons, you make lemonade.’ I spent a lot of time with her, and she was an absolute sweetheart. I spent a lot of time with her. My mother passed away when she was fifty-four. My grandmother still lived on and was ninety-four when she passed away. For the last twenty years, her life was without my mother. That affected her quite a lot. This was an unusual occurrence usually. We would get together a couple of times a week. We would either go out to eat, or I would bring dinner over. She just was a wonderful woman who had a lot of good friends and a great attitude about life. She was an absolute treasure.
At this point now, I have outlived the age both of my parents. My mother passed away when she was fifty-four, and my father when he was sixty-seven. Now, I am sixty-eight and still going strong. Not too shabby for a geezer! (We all laugh…) That is another thing about staying active and staying interested in things. It enriches your life so much.
Another philosophy to share—if something is not going particularly well, the best word is “Next!” (We laugh…) You move on to something that’s better. Don’t stay mired in things that are not happy. You won’t be moving in the right direction.
There are two places in Louisiana that were off the main road with good Louisiana music. With one in particular, I would walk in the door, and in some ways, I was like a minor celebrity because people everywhere knew who I was. They knew I was the guy from Rhode Island. Sometimes, I would walk into places, and a band would be in the middle of a song and stop and say, “Hey Norm!” (We laugh…) But I would walk in the door, and the owner/hostess would say, “Oh, just a minute—hey, is so-and-so coming tonight? Oh, okay, you can get her table tonight!” That’s so cool! These little dance halls were sometimes three or four miles off the main road. They had beautiful dance floors and live music.
I don’t know if you know the well-known bluegrass bands or some other types of things. One of the other stories I love to tell is— Have you ever heard of Doc Watson? Yeah! Well, he’s a treasure, and he used to play at our festivals in upstate New York. One of my designated assignments was that I would walk him onstage. He was very picky about who to let lead him because most people didn’t know how to do it. Simple, yep! He put his hand on my shoulder, and I just kind of let him know what was ahead of us, and we’d laugh a lot. He was an absolute treasure and one of the best flat pickers in the world, despite the fact that he was blind. He was a treasure. We used to get some of the true, top-shelf bluegrass bands at the Winterhawk Festival in upstate New York, which ultimately changed to Grey Fox.
We got to meet and hang out with some tremendous, world-class musicians. It’s so much fun to meet some of these people who have had a lifetime of good and bad experiences and who bring a lot of joy to people with their music. Bluegrass people like Lester Flatt, Earl Scruggs, Bill Monroe. You’ve met them all? Oh yeah. Oh my goodness! I got to ride in Bill Monroe’s bus. That’s incredible. They’re really wonderful, down-to-earth people. They’re not like rock stars or anything like that.
Here’s another story. I was at work one night and got a call—a gentleman asking the best way to transport a valuable guitar while flying. I said, “Well, the first thing I’ll advise you is don’t do it as check baggage. Do it as a carry-on.” I said, “Don’t give it to the ‘baggage smashers.’” I’ve known enough people who have had their guitars damaged or destroyed. I said, “Wrap it in bubble wrap, put it in the case, carry it on, don’t let anyone else touch it.” He said, “Well, yeah. It’s a very expensive guitar.” “Oh, really!” “Yeah, it’s custom-made from Santa Cruz, California.” “Oh, okay. It’s a Thomas.” “How did you know that?” “Because he’s the only guitar maker in Santa Cruz who builds guitars that are worth that much money.” He said, “Oh, okay.” I said, “What kind of music do you play?” “I used to play bluegrass.” He’s flying this from Anchorage, Alaska here to Georgia. I said, “Really, did you play with any bands?” “Oh year, I used to play with a Nashville band and two or three other bands.” “Oh, really. Did you ever play at Winterhawk?” He said, “Of course!” I said, “What’s your name?” “Dale Tilley.” “D Dale Tilley?” “Yes, who’s this?” I said, “This is Norm Petterson.” “Oh, we used to eat in between shows!” I said, “What are you doing nowadays?” He said, “I got out of bluegrass, but I’m the pastor of a small church.” He and these three brothers play the music for the church– bluegrass. In fact, they play the most beautiful version of “I’ll Fly Away.”
Here I am sitting there. The whole world calls, and here’s somebody that I had known. Whoa! I love those kinds of experiences.
It’s a treasure. It doesn’t mean anything to anybody, but it’s just a wealth of my experience to come across these people who are all over the world who I was making connections with.
I just read something last night that fits [the topic of your project]. It says how beneficial good memories are. Sometimes, in life, people who have a lot of good memories can survive better because they can go back and draw on the really good times, and it helps to calm them and bring them back to focus. Actually, this is being researched, and so far, it’s really pointing out that that is the case. Yeah, like reliving things that you’ve already done. Yes, bringing you back to the time when things were more even-keel and pleased you. Those times bring you back into focus. It’s too easy sometimes to get lost in the middle of things that didn’t go so great or aren’t going so great. It’s better to say, “I remember when…”
(To be continued in Part III…)